This work will show up in unexpected ways, Anese said at IEP Live! in Sacramento, CA in October 2017. This work hit me like a ton of bricks about three months after I attended IEP Live! My husband had been battling a rare, aggressive cancer for two years. In January 2018, we learned that oral chemotherapy had stopped working and he would need to be admitted to the hospital for IV chemotherapy. It was a crushing blow. I made the commitment that I would be his best advocate. From my IEP Live! experience, I realized what mattered most was how I could be present in the moment with him; and that skill would ensure I could be his best advocate.